Talking Positively about the Talk

The adolescent in me was giddy when I read the topic of this essay because, for her, it meant this was a do over. I could say to her all the things that she needed to hear. Today, I am a 24-year-old woman. I have come close but have not yet had (penetrative) sex. This…

A gay pastor’s kid!

How do you tell a traditional Zulu dad who is a pastor that you are GAY? Let me tell you about my dad. My dad is a pastor and I’m his first daughter. He is the kind of man that does everything according to culture. I may be wearing leggings today, but I made sure…

A burning, necessary conversation

One fateful afternoon when I was 10 years old, I heard about sex for first time. Our fifth-grade teacher announced that she wanted to have a ‘talk’ with the girls after school. “As you can all see, your bodies are changing, you’re growing breasts and your hips are widening,” she said. “Very soon you will…

Let’s Talk About THE TALK!

I grew up on the outskirts of the big city of Blantyre, Malawi, and was brought up in an extended family. Every night after supper we sat by the fire. I would tell my grandma how my day at school went. She always listened to everything I said, about all the things I learnt in…