Don’t let the Red of Valentine’s Day surprise you.

Valentine’s Day, 14 February 2016, my first time being in the big city, new friends, new environment, a new boyfriend and my first Valentine’s in varsity. Everyone was excited about the day, not to say I was not, I was but I was also nervous at the same time because I had just gotten a…

The jitters of having a Valentine on Valentine’s Day

The 14th of February is universally known as Valentine’s Day and in this particular year I had a prospective Valentine. I was coming of age, just approaching sweet 16 and Valentine’s Day had only just started to have meaning for me. There was a certain boy in my neighbourhood who had taken a keen eye…

The power of self

There is still such stigma around young women going to get tested for HIV. It’s almost implied that you shouldn’t get tested, and not that you shouldn’t be having unprotected sex. Luckily, there are new options. Supermarkets and pharmacies are increasingly stocking home HIV tests that you can buy and use in your own space…

Should you disclose your HIV status?

I am a survivor of sexual abuse and a young woman living with HIV. Personally I believe that as young people we take certain things seriously and relationships are one of them. When the relationship doesn’t work out it can be absolutely devastating. There are many young people especially women living in shame because of…

From one sister to another

Hey little sis… This world comes with its challenges: some bigger than others but challenges nonetheless. But, the world can also be seen as your oyster. As much as that statement is cliché, it is very true. As a young girl, your main priorities were to go to school, get good grades and have a…

I choose to be alive

In October, most students are preparing for exams in South Africa but here I was contemplating suicide. I walked into the clinic with my friend as we always do when we go for our quarterly check-ups and I walked out a different person. My life was shattered when the friendly doctor told me I was…

Who are you woman?

During National Women’s Month, we celebrate the inspiring and courageous work women around the country have done and continue doing to secure women’s rights and empowerment. It is also a time to reflect on what it takes to be a woman today. Being a woman in modern day South Africa is quite complicated. You’re expected…

#AIDS2018 conference reflection…..now back to reality

It has been a week since the AIDS 2018 conference in Amsterdam ended.  Before I get back into my everyday routine or even plan for the few remaining months of the year, I would like to reflect and share my thoughts on this year’s conference. It is reported to be the biggest conference with more…